I HAVE CHOSEN TO BE HAPPY BECAUSE IT IS GOOD FOR MY HEALTH

I'm a big fan of the infamous book and documentary film, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. However, there were some parts of it that I just could not wrap my head around. How could a group of thousands of people, for example, "attract" such horrific events such as 9/11 or the Newtown shootings?  How could an infant attract to themselves a terminal illness that was present at birth? How could a large portion of the population attract to themselves chronic illness or disability? No one would think illness into existence, would they?

Sure, if you delve further into the study of The Secret, you'll find explanations that answer these questions, some almost logically so. But, I have a different take on the law of attraction as it relates to health and chronic illness.

First, let me say: the reality is that, sometimes, people do attract illness to themselves. An obvious example would be a smoker who gets lung cancer, or a morbidly obese person who has diabetes or clogged arteries. An NFL athlete can attract a shoulder injury or a concussion, and may have to suffer the results throughout his or her life. A person who uses drugs could use a contaminated needle and contract HIV. Heck, even sharing a drink with someone who has a cold is a surefire way to attract illness to oneself. So, yes, there are examples where, I suppose, the law of attraction could attract illness our way. I believe that is indisputable, and obvious.

But what about the cases where there is no explanation? A baby who has cancer? A toddler who gets juvenile arthritis? Did they attract illness to themselves? No, of course not. And the vast majority of us did not bring these illnesses upon ourselves, either.

However, that doesn't mean that we are freed of the responsibility to cultivate a positive mindset and use the law of attraction to better our own lives. In fact, I think this means that we have to focus on it even harder. This is because I do believe that we can worsen our health situation, and that we can truly attract negativity to ourselves. I think that we can sometimes attract more health issues to ourselves by focusing upon the wrong things. Being diagnosed with a chronic illness doesn't always have to create a snowball effect … and even if it does, it's up to us how we choose to react to it.

For example, if we only focus on our pain and live from a place of fear, never exercising, we will almost certainly worsen our conditions. ("Use it or lose it," is a truth, and nowadays, most doctors will agree that movement equals medicine.)  But if you focus on the mindset that you "can't do it," guess what? You're attracting that truth to yourself. If you don't believe you can, you never will. So if you continually think that you can't do something, and you continually say that you can't do something, then you are breathing life and truth into that notion. And guess what? You WON'T be able to do it. (Especially if you never try!).

If you're only focusing on the negative all the time, you're sure to attract more negative situations your way. Whereas, if you're continually positive, you may attract positivity your way. If nothing else, it can't hurt … whereas being negative all the time certainly can.

In fact, a negative mindset can weaken our immune system, cause depression, and slow the metabolism. So, sure, we didn't attract RA (or lupus, or whatever) to ourselves to begin with. But, through the law of attraction, could a negative mindset be making it worse? I firmly believe that the answer is yes, and some scientific and medical studies will even show the physical impact that a positive versus a negative attitude can have on our health and our bodies.

So try to focus on choosing positivity, and you'll likely see that more positive things will come your way. If nothing else, you'll be a more pleasant and enjoyable person to be around, attracting more positive feelings from others. (And what better to help us through our bouts with illness and pain than the loving support and positivity that we feel from those around us?)

If you focus on problems, problems multiply. And the truth is, most of us have enough problems to deal with, so why cultivate more? Instead, harvest kindness, reap positivity, and you'll sow the rewards of a more positive you that attracts good things into your life, and the lives of others.

A website that focuses on the study of The Secret has this to say: "… you must begin by releasing negative thoughts of the disease and replacing them with positive thoughts of wellness.

When a person has consistent negative thoughts their body will be further affected with the progressing manifestation of disease.  When you have happy and positive thoughts, disease cannot thrive as well in your body and you will experience greater health and beauty.

Stress, anxiety, and fearful thoughts break down the body's natural immune system and causes disease to more thoroughly manifest in the body.  Have you ever noticed that people who live in fear of attracting diseases are the people who typically manifest them?

The body responds to thoughts that are impressed upon it from the subconscious mind. That's why it is important to focus your thoughts on thoughts of positivity, love, happiness, abundance and prosperity to keep your body from harboring disease.

If you have already manifested a disease or illness; you will first need to let go of the attention to the problem, because if you continue to focus on it you will create more of it."

I do agree that when all we think about and talk about is our health (or lack thereof,) that it can have a very negative effect on our physical, mental, and emotional life, and can thus diminish our quality of life. I've also seen enough research to know that optimism and positivity are good for our overall health: mind, body, and spirit. But, like anything, there are exceptions to every rule, and as we know, sometimes a positive attitude just isn't enough!

"Even when using health and law of attraction, medicine still has its place. Dr. Demartini from The Secret stated: 'If you are suffering from an acute situation that can bring death or harm to you then medicine is a wise thing to do while you experience what the mind is about.  So you don't want to negate medicine, because every form of healing has its place. Healing through the mind can work harmoniously with medicine.  If pain is involved, then medicine can help to eliminate that pain, which then allow the person to be able to focus with great force on health." With health and law of attraction, 'Thinking perfect health is something anybody can do privately within themselves no matter what is happening around them,' says Dr. Demartini."

Tell us: have you ever saw the Law of Attraction at work in your life? Do you believe that your thoughts can have an effect on your health, good or bad? Have you ever used positive affirmations of good health to help you cope with your chronic illness? Please feel free to leave a comment and share your story.

LOVE MUST GO WITH WISDOM FOR PERFECT GOOD

Love must go with wisdom for perfect good. Love by itself is not enough for perfect good. Without wisdom, love can result in evil. Wisdom that is without love is not perfect. Love is contained in wisdom and wisdom is contained in love. When you are wise, you have love. When your love is perfect, it is with wisdom. Those who know the true meaning of love, know that love is with wisdom. Those that seek wisdom can have greater love. Those who are wisest can have the best kind of love. Wisdom perfects love.

The only good is knowledge and the only evil is ignorance. Love and wisdom are synonymous. Only those who are wise can be truly loving. The love of money can be the root of all evil. The love of anything can be the root of all evil. People would steal, kill, destroy, cheat, lie and commit all kinds of evil in the name of love. On the other hand, love can also be the root of all good. What determines whether the love is the root of good of evil is wisdom. Love with wisdom is the root of good. Without wisdom it is evil.

Truth and love are one. Some people place love as of higher importance than truth. They are being ignorant and can never attain the fullness of love. If there was an order of which comes first in the divine hierarchy of things, then it would be truth. Because Logos is the foundation of all existence. When you seek truth, you will know love. When you seek love, you may not find truth. Because truth stands by itself whereas love needs truth for it to be true. Truth and love are one, but truth is the preeminent to know.

HOW TO USE YOUR MIND POWER TO ACHIEVE GOALS FASTER

“Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself. Go forward and make your dreams come true.” Emerson

Have you set your intentions for 2014? I personally am really excited about what 2014 will bring, because I can feel that this year will be one of the most powerful, inspiring and incredible years ever.

You know what I realized over the years? That the best way to really stick to your goals, whether they are made on December 31 or in the middle of the year, is to always start from the end, to always see yourself having achieved all your dreams and goals, and really feeling those feelings that come from having your dreams materialized.

What I want to talk about today is just that, how to set your intentions and how to really commit to them in order to make them happen.

Imagine that it’s already December 31 2014, you now look back on what you have achieved so far and what do you see? From my own experience, I will have to tell you that this is one of the most powerful ways to really engrave what you want into your brain, into your mind and into your heart, and to really ignite that inner fire in order to work on making all your dreams come true.

So let’s do this. Take your journal, and if you don’t have one, take a notebook, and write this date down, December 31 2014. Let’s pretend for a few minutes that it’s the end of 2014.

Write down how you feel now that this amazing year is over and that all the goals you have set for 2014 were achieved… What changes were made in your life; how many lives were touched by your beautiful, inspiring and empowering work; how did your relationships with those dear to you changed; how is your relationship with your partner, how does you home look like’ how much money have you earned this year? Let your imagination run wild, and remember what Einstein once said: “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.”

Don’t be shy, all of these and even more, write them all down, and really feel those feelings, feel those emotions that come from having all of your dreams materialized.

It’s the end of 2014 and you are now expressing your gratitude for your beautiful and abundant life, and you are filled with love, appreciation and inner peace, you are euphoric.

By doing so, you will send all of these incredible and powerful vibrations out there in the Universe, because you already know that when you want something with all your heart, the whole Universe will conspire to make it happen… In your mind, it already happened.

The idea here is to start with the end in mind, and to express your gratitude in advance, always, knowing that what you want already happened and it’s already yours. The moment you express your gratitude in advance for the things you want, gratitude will help increase the level of your energy, helping you to attract the right ideas, people, situations, the right tools to make all of your dreams come true.

By doing so, you will stick to your goals, dreams, vision, intentions, etc.  and you will also work on creating new ones, knowing how easy and fun it is to make your dreams become reality, effortlessly. You are present and engaged in your everyday life, working on achieving great things, but without being attached to the outcome. You are present in the now, expressing your gratitude on a daily bases for all that life has to offer you, moving confident in the direction of your dreams. You are exactly where you are intended to be, and you are doing exactly what needs to be done. You are true to yourself, you are blissful and always in FLOW.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   

HOW TO DRAW ATTENTION TO YOURSELF

 Do you want to stand out in the crowd? Make a name for yourself? Get noticed? Let's face it, just about everybody loves attention, and getting noticed can have real benefits: getting that girl (or guy) you're interested in, getting a job, or even becoming a star, for example. Why, then, does "proper" society tend to frown on drawing attention to oneself? Put simply, not all attention is equal, and people who try to draw attention to themselves often do it in unpleasant ways--think of a screaming toddler, for instance. While certain showbiz types like to say that any publicity is good publicity, you'll generally only benefit from positive attention, and drawing that kind of attention to yourself requires a little patience, thought and tact.

Think of when they think of you, and it requires time and consistency to build a brand. Say you're at a new school and you want to make friends. Your brand then, should include characteristics like loyalty, friendliness, and fun. Do things that build this brand and make you a more appealing potential friend. Other examples of brands include the "bad-boy image." Be careful, though, or you'll look like you're trying too hard.

Be outstanding. When we think of the word "outstanding," we usually think of excellence, but being outstanding also means to "stand out." If you want to stand out, do your best to be the best at something. If you want to draw the attention of your spouse, for example, be the best husband or wife you can be. If you want to get a better job, be extraordinarily competent in your current job and seek to learn more to advance your career. You don't always have to be outstanding at something that's directly related to your goal. For example, you'll find that people who are very successful in whatever pursuit they choose in life often draw the attention of, or date, beautiful women or good-looking guys, even if their particular field of excellence has nothing to do with being a good mate. If you're outstanding at something, just about anything, you'll draw people's attention.

Be subtle. A patient, subtle approach is important in developing your image because if you look like you're trying too hard to draw attention, you'll simply end up branding yourself as someone who craves attention, which is generally not a desirable attribute. As an example, imagine you want to get attention in order to make friends. If you stand on your head and insult people, you'll likely get attention for a little while, but you probably won't make friends--everybody will know you're just desperate for attention. On the other hand, if you draw attention to yourself by wearing a smile, making a conversation with people, or joining a sports team, you'll build a more positive brand and get more attention in the long run.

Be humble. Be outstanding, be confident, be assertive, but don't be arrogant. Even if you truly excel at just about everything, people will try to tune you out--or even resent you--if you are a jerk. Don't tell people how awesome you are, show them, and don't make a big deal out of it. Don't blow your own horn too much.

HOW TO SAY NO WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY

Is it nearly impossible for you to say "no" to a person without feeling guilty, no matter how unreasonable the request may be? If you can almost never say "no" to a person -- whether it's your boss or significant other -- without feeling terrible afterwards, then you have a hard time prioritizing your needs over the needs of others. You should say "yes" when you feel that the task is manageable, when it's within your responsibility to do it, or even when you owe a favor to a friend. But if you're always saying "yes" because you're afraid of saying "no," then it's time to take action and take your life into your own hands without feeling guilty. If you want to know how, just follow these steps.

Acknowledge that you can't do everything.

Your problem with saying "yes" to everyone may have already left you trapped with almost no time to yourself. You may have said "yes" to helping your friend run her bake sale, "yes" to helping your boss manage a new project and "yes" to helping your significant other paint his apartment. You can avoid this situation in the future by beginning to say "no."

Whether you can't do everything because you've said "yes" to so many people, or because of all of the commitments of your busy life, tell yourself that it's impossible for you to say "yes" when you don't feel right about it.

Tell yourself that you're not being selfish.

One of the big reasons that people can't say no without feeling guilty is because they feel that they're being selfish for turning down people who need their help, therefore making more time for themselves. But if you're selfish, then you're always looking out for yourself only and would never feel guilty about saying "no" to someone.

·         Tell yourself that you're not being selfish, and that if that person thinks you're selfish for not doing something unreasonable, then that's not a person you should want to associate with.

·         Think of all of the times that you have said "yes" to people in the past -- what's selfish about that?

Know that you can't please everyone.

Acknowledge that it's impossible to please every person in your life and that you have to draw the line somewhere. You may feel that you will disappoint a person if you say "no," and will thus lose his respect, but you may find that the opposite is true. If someone thinks you'll say "yes" to everything, then he will actually be more likely to take advantage of you and to ask you to do too many favors.

·         You can please the people you really care about some of the time, but it's not possible to please every person every time -- and maintain your sanity.

Think of all of the things you're saying "yes" to when you say "no."

You don't have to look at saying "no" as a negative thing. If you're saying "no" to doing more work, you're saying "yes" to a variety of things that will benefit your life. If you think of all of the things that will be better off from you saying "no," you will feel less guilty. Here are a few of them:

• You're saying "yes" to spending more quality time with your friends, loved ones, and family instead of doing something you don't want to do.
• You're saying "yes" to maintaining your sanity, to having some "me time," and for making time for the hobbies and interests that matter to you.
• You're saying "yes" to living a more relaxed, evenly-paced life that is centered around the things that having meaning for you, not for someone else.
• You're saying "yes" to having a reasonable workload instead of burying yourself in hours of extra work because you couldn't turn someone down.

Understand why you have a hard time saying no.

Is it because you don't want the person to stop talking to you? Is it because you don't want it to look like you don't care about the person? Being aware of what makes it so hard for you to turn a person down can make it easier for you to be more rational about the situation.

·         If you're afraid to ever say no because you're worried that the person will stop caring about you, then you are in a problematic relationship and should try to get out immediately.

Understand the different tactics people use to get you to say "yes."

If you can recognize the different methods that people may use to manipulate you and get you to say "yes" when you want to say "no," then it'll be easier for you to say "no" because you'll know that the person is just trying to control you in some way. Here are some tactics to look out for.

·         Bullying: The bully keeps insisting that you do the thing he wants you to do, and is even mean or aggressive in the process. You can turn the bully down by keeping your cool and not reacting to his aggressive tone.

·         Whining: The whiner can keep complaining about how hard something is until you break down and agree to help without even being asked. Instead, either change the subject, avoid contact with that person for a little while, or just say that you're sorry that the person is having such a hard time without agreeing to help.

·         Guilting: Some people will try to make you feel guilty by telling you that you never help or that you never come through in a pinch. Calmly remind the person of the times that you have helped, and deny the request. This time will be different.

·         Complementing: The complementer may start by telling you how amazing you are at something, or how smart you are, and then will ask you for help with a certain task. Don't fall prey to flattery and agree to do something just because you're being praised.