HOW TO AVOID BEING TALKATIVE

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 Being talkative is a real issue that can often bring down social relationships. Whether you're talkative because you always have a story to tell, to having a psychological fear of rejection, here's how to avoid being talkative.

Avoid personal references - "I", "me", "my", and personal experiences are usually boring to overs and can keep you going for a long time. This is a craving that can turn into a bad habit, which is hard to take down. Only (occasionally) throw in short stories that pertain to the topic at hand.
  • If you do tell a story, make sure it's funny. If a person is bored or has no reaction to the story, they (honestly) probably think the words were wasted time and/or space.
  • People subconsciously love to talk about themselves. The less you do it, the less you'll want to do it. Talk about others instead.
Ask questions and find out information. If you do bring something up about yourself, ask a question or find information from the other person(s) do it doesn't seem like a waste of time. You may also be approached with something that seems boring to you, which will make you want to ask questions less.
  • For the final sentence, you might think this will make you just talk about yourself and not ask others. Instead, pair questions and taking interest in others with talking. Make it your goal to talk with people and not at them.
Put yourself in their shoes. Think about how you would feel talking to yourself. If you're bored, annoyed, bothered, tired, or out of interest, take this into consideration. You'll know what you need to fix and/or work on. If others have admitted to feeling bored or careless but you see nothing wrong, you may be (slightly) self-absorbed and should see a therapist or guidance counselor.
Get an opinion. Grab one or some very close friends and ask them honestly if you're too talkative. Tell them you want 100% truth on their opinion and that you can definitely handle anything they have to say. Tell them you're doing it not for personal benefit, but for their benefit too, so they don't have to deal with these issues and even help you fix them.

There are simple rules that you should keep in mind before and when speaking. It's a basically a guide to when to keep your mouth shut. Remember to stop speaking if the following happens:-
  • If they're not paying attention or talking to someone else
  • If the story is a long one and nobody asked to hear it
  • If you got the story from the internet
  • If you're talking about your dreams or work
  • The person seems bored or uninterested
  • The person is looking at their phone, tablet, or computer
  • The person is working
  • You're talking too fast
  • You're the only one laughing

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