I
was watching a documentary the other day about someone who is pursuing their
dream to become a big actor in Hollywood. He arrived ten years ago and
since then has had minimal success in reaching that goal. When asked, the
actor said he felt the time he spent pursuing his dream was completely worth
it.
And
for the most part I agree. This guy showed persistence and determination
in pursuit of his dream. How many of us can say we’ve done the
same? In fact many people never even get started. And that’s a
shame too because you should always pursue your dreams even if they never work
out.
Are
You Pursuing Your Dreams?
One of the biggest obstacles for
people pursuing their dreams is that they have the belief that it won’t
work. Before they even try, they’ve already determined that the odds are
against them so much that they might as well not start.
I
certainly understand the difficulties in achieving many dreams. That
actor must have realized that thousands of people move to Hollywood every year
to make it big, but only a handful of people actually become stars. The
chances of success are so overwhelmingly against you that you have a better
chance of getting hit by lightning on a clear day.
But
hyperboles aside, the big question remains. Why would someone pursue a
dream when the odds are stacked against them?
Well,
there are actually two great answers to that question:
1.
You may not achieve your dreams, but
you at least you tried which is more than most people can say.
2.
Life isn’t about the destination, it
is about the journey.
Why
You Might Not Pursue Them
I’m going to go over those two
points further, but first let me tell you a story about a girl. I met her
shortly after she had graduated with an MBA from a prestigious business
school. She was smart enough to finish the program in one year and was
even awarded “MBA of the year”.
But
there was a problem: She hated it.
She
hated the school, the people and especially the degree. She actually
wanted to pursue something creative like writing or art, but her father forced
her into this degree because it would offer her more options after graduation.
When
I talked to her, she was happy to have options after graduation, but really sad
that she could never pursue her creative side. Artistic careers may not
pay the bills as easily as a business degree, but now she feels stuck doing
something she doesn’t like. She’ll always wonder how things might have
turned out under different circumstances.
This
is typical of how most people miss out on pursuing their dreams.
While
dreaming of one path, you end up taking the opposite direction. Usually
that can be because the career prospects are better, but it could also be
because you have no time or other responsibilities get in the way.
Why
You Should Pursue Your Dreams
Let me ask you a question about the
dreams you have. Would you rather pursue them and fail or never try at
all? For me, I’d rather try and fail. I don’t want to leave things
wondering what might have been.
Take
writing for example. I’ve wanted to be a professional writer since I was
a little boy, but I was too scared that I wouldn’t be any good at it. But
several years ago I started pursuing this dream despite knowing how difficult
it might be. I fully realize I may not make it, but I’m completely fine
with that.
At
least I tried which is more than most people can say.
I
just don’t want to look back on my life when I’m 80 and realize I never even
tried. Instead of taking the chance on myself, I would have taken the
easy way out and regretted it. I don’t want to look back and wonder what
might have been.
Life
is a Journey
Don’t see failure or success as the
only end goals when it comes to pursuing your dreams. I don’t think of
dreams in these terms. A lot of life falls into a gray area and
dream-chasing is no exception.
Instead,
think of life as a big journey where what happens along the way is just as
important as reaching the end goal. Even if I never reach my goal of
becoming a professional writer, I completely believe the choice to pursue it
was worthwhile. I’ve developed great skills and made wonderful
relationships with other bloggers.
Plus,
I am proud that I took the chance on myself; it’s very life-affirming.
Pursuing your dreams can take a lot of courage and dedication to do. Plus
all the experiences you get along the way can make every minute you put into it
worthwhile. That’s something I’m sure that actor learned while pursuing
his dreams. And it’s why you should always pursue them – no matter what.
What
dreams have you always wanted to pursue? If you’re pursuing your dreams now,
what have you learned along the way?
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