SET YOUR MIND FREE

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Do you love your mind?  For many people, the answer is “no” or “not all the time.”   They often feel trapped inside their thoughts and emotions, at the mercy of a host of uninvited guests – the fear that roams the mind at will, the dark depression that takes up residence and refuses to leave, the anger that blows through the circuits and ignites in turmoil.

Ancient cultures recognized the mind’s restless, unreliable nature. In India, the most common metaphor for the mind is the wild elephant, and in Buddhism, the mind is compared to a monkey peering out through the five senses. Monkeys are notoriously impulsive, liable to do anything without notice. To cope with the frustrating antics of the monkey mind, the vast majority of people try to tame it – but that method never works. The mind only becomes wilder when we try to control and confine it. The solution is counter intuitive: to experience peace and calm, we have to free the mind. When it is free, it settles down and becomes a channel for peace. In freedom, our thoughts and impulses flow in harmony with what is right and best for each of us.

How, then, can you set your mind free? The first step is understanding that your mind traps itself by spinning an elaborate story about who you are and what you believe, and then fiercely defends that story. Observing this human tendency, the philosopher Jean Jacques Rousseau wrote, “Man is born free, but everywhere he is in chains.” The most common story the mind tells is that you are your ego, a fixed “I” that is separate from the rest of the world. If you believe this story, it keeps you in bondage. The ego is limited, subject to fear, and consumed with the idea that it has to know what is going to happen in order to feel safe.

The truth is that we don’t know what is going to happen. Really feeling safe, peaceful, and content comes from experiencing your true self, which is  pure spirit, unbounded in time and space. When you know the real you isn’t inside your head, you have been set free, like awareness itself. Embracing the wisdom of uncertainty not only frees you from the ego’s illusion of control, it puts you right in the middle of the joyful flow of cosmic creativity.

Meditation is one of the most powerful practices for awakening to your true self and the peace that lies within.  In meditation, you go beyond the mind’s noisy chatter and chaos into inner quiet and expanded awareness. You begin to see that you are not your thoughts, emotions, and the stories you tell yourself. As you experience this silence on a regular basis, your mind begins to shift. Instead of being dominated by fear, guilt, and other forms of inner pain, it is dominated by a quiet, steady state. From this state blossoms a sense of well being and a feeling that you are safe. If you remain on the path and keep experiencing inner silence, peace dawns and then joy and bliss.

USE YOUR KNOWLEDGE TO HELP OTHERS CROSS THE FINISH LINE

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Professional people who work with technology or some other area of expertise are knowledgeable people and knowledge carries influence. People respect knowledge. The more knowledge you have the more influence you will also have. 

The question is: how will you use your knowledge? Will you use it for good or for bad?
Professional people need to understand how much influence they carry. It's more than most know. Unfortunately, if used in a negative sense, this influence has much more power than when used in a positive sense. At least it can seem that way.

For example, it takes very little effort to stop a project. The negative influence of one professional person can stop a project dead within minutes. And the effect is huge.
On the other hand, the positive influence of one professional person can keep the momentum going in a project until the finish line is crossed. However, because completing a project is far more difficult than stopping one, the effect is seemingly not as great.
A lot of effort and teamwork goes into getting to the finish line. You must wait for the gratification that comes from completing a project. Ultimately, the professional person who helps get a project to its goal line may not even get credit or recognition for their efforts. Whereas with stopping a project, the gratification is immediate because the results are immediate.

If a professional person wants to feel powerful they may choose to use their knowledge to scare, to play politics or to control people and situations. This is bad and is a poor use of knowledge. It does not find solutions. It does not help others.

It is much better to use knowledge to seek solutions. If a problem exists, use your knowledge to solve the problem. Don't stand in the way of progress. Don't use your influence to veto a project because challenges exist. There is already enough bureaucracy at the University making it difficult to move any project forward. We don't need more roadblocks and detours.

Professional people don't abuse your knowledge. Use your knowledge and influence to overcome challenges. Bring a win-win attitude to the table. Don't side in with the problems; present solutions. We need your knowledge to help us cross the finish line.

MAGIC OF BELIEVING

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Claude Bristol was a hard-headed journalist for several years, including stints as a police reporter and as church editor of a large city newspaper. In this post he met people from every denomination and sect, and later read hundreds of books on psychology, religion, science, metaphysics and ancient magic. Gradually, Bristol began to see the 'golden thread' which runs through all religions and esoteric teachings: that belief itself has amazing powers.

Having spent years thinking about the power of thought, he had assumed others knew something about it too. He was wrong. Strangely, he found that most people go through life without realising the effect that strong belief can have on reaching their goals - they leave their desires vague and so they get vague outcomes.

When Bristol was a soldier in World War One, there was a period in which he had no pay and couldn't even afford cigarettes. He made up his mind that when he got back to civilian life "he would have a lot of money". In his mind this was a decision, not a wish. Barely a day had passed after his arrival back home when he was contacted by a banker who had seen a story on him in the local newspaper. He was offered a job, and though he started on a small salary, he constantly kept before him 'a mental picture of wealth'. In quiet moments or while on the telephone, he doodled '$$$' signs on bits of paper that crossed his desk. This definiteness of belief, he suggests, more than anything else paved the way for a highly successful career in investment banking and business.

Bristol had learned the truth of philosopher William James' statement that "Belief creates its verification in fact". Just as fearful thoughts set you up to experience the situation you can't stop thinking about (the Biblical Job said: 'What I feared most had come upon me'), optimistic thoughts and expecting the best inevitably form favourable circumstances.

Belief and destiny
Napoleon was given a star sapphire when he was a boy, accompanied by the prophecy that it would bring him good fortune and make him Emperor of France. Napoleon accepted this as fact, and therefore to him at least, his rise was inevitable.

Bristol tells the intriguing story of Opal Whiteley, the daughter of an Oregon logger, who believed herself to be the daughter of Henri d'Orleans, a Bourbon with a claim to be King of France. There was a diary purportedly written by her describing her royal parents, although most believed it to be a hoax. Nevertheless, when Opal was in her twenties she was spotted in India, being pulled along regally in a carriage belonging to the Maharaja of Udaipur; it turned out she was living in the royal household. An Oregan newspaper man who had known Opal in her childhood remarked: "It was uncanny, almost supernatural, the manner in which circumstances suited themselves to her plans."

This brings us to the book's strongest message: that virtually anything can be yours, and you can be anything, if you are able to develop a 'knowing' about it that you don't ever need to question. Of Napoleon and Alexander the Great, Bristol says, "They became supermen because they had supernormal beliefs". Your belief about yourself and your place in the world is arguably the major determinant of success.

The subconscious servant
If you can understand the relationship between the conscious and the subconscious minds, Bristol says, you will get to the core of belief power. The subconscious constantly works to express our deepest beliefs and desires. It is a faithful servant which renews, guides and inspires, but to get the most from it requires greater respect for and faith in what it can do. Because the subconscious operates in terms of imagery, it is vital that we feed it mental pictures of what we desire. It can then go to work in 'living up to' the image placed before it, by giving us intuitions about what to do, where to go, who to meet.

Somehow, the subconscious is connected to all other minds, and through the law of radiation and attraction it can attract events and people to you that will assist in making your dreams reality. However, it will only find ways to make the image real if that image is clear and convincing - hence the importance of the mental pictures of success you feed it. The force of belief cannot really work in our favour until the belief becomes literally part of us, settled in the subconscious mind as a fact.

Projecting thought and belief
Bristol notes that all the great electrical scientists - Edison, Steinmetz, Tesla, Marconi - were interested in telepathy. It was not ridiculous to them that thoughts could move through the air, that thoughts alone could affect things if, like a good radio signal, they were strong and clear.

Bristol borrows from New Thought principles to suggest that there is intelligence in everything that exists in the universe and that we are all linked up by a kind of universal mind; Jung had a similar idea with his 'collective unconscious'. The force of your belief represents a transmitter to the universe that enters the minds of other people and even inanimate objects. The more powerful your 'broadcast', the more likely that the world will pick it up and react accordingly. It was not impossible, said the astronomer Sir Arthur Eddington, that the physical laws of the universe could be made subject to human thought, and modern quantum physics does not rule it out either. Bristol's explanation is that a person with a strong belief will exist at a certain vibration that seeks its like in the form of matter. Thus the startling conclusion: you do not achieve deep felt goals by action alone, but are helped along depending on the quality and intensity of the belief that they will be achieved.

The power of suggestion
Charms, talismans, good-luck pieces of any kind, alone do not bring good fortune, Bristol says, it is the belief in their efficacy that is powerful. Why do people chant, repeat affirmations, bang drums or count beads? Repetition is another way to implant a suggestion into our minds, the 'white magic' which enables us to turn a wish into an expectation. By ritualising it, by giving it structure, the idea changes from being a mere wish to being imminent reality. We give thanks for what is or is about to be. The 'terrific force of thought repetition', Bristol says, first overcomes reason by acting on our emotions and then penetrates into the subconscious where it is only a matter of time before the thought is enacted. This, of course, is the principle behind successful advertising and propaganda.
Bristol includes a warning about misuse of the mental technology associated with strong belief and suggestion: it is a power to be used constructively, not to achieve dominance. His book is dedicated to 'independent thinkers of all times' who wish to use belief for creative, life-affirming ends. He talks much of the power of belief to physically heal, for instance.

Final word
The Magic of Believing is rambling and its references are dated; you may find yourself saying 'get to the point'. Some readers will also be turned off by the unscientific nature of the book, yet the strange thing about it is that it can reveal more to you on second, third or fourth readings. Bristol knew, after all, that ancient esoteric writings were often purposely opaque to shield their secrets from the uninitiated or those who might abuse them. You may not love reading this book, but just having it around could serve as a valuable reminder of the power of belief.

It may also be difficult to stomach some of this 'mind stuff' as the author calls it. He himself was sceptical, but then realised that we all summon the magic of believing when we desperately want something to come into being. The show pianist Liberace was said to have turned his life around after reading The Magic of Believing. In a chapter on 'Women and the science of belief', Bristol evokes the names of Marie Curie, Mary Baker Eddy (founder of Christian Science), Florence Nightingale, Harriet Beecher Stow (author of Uncle Tom's Cabin) and actess Angela Lansbury as examples of people who drew upon the power of believing to achieve great things. Lansbury told an interviewer, "[W]hen you've learned how to draw on your subconscious powers, there's really no limit to what you can accomplish". The mental powers of these women were tremendous, yet we can develop their same 'belief intelligence' for our own lives.

TOP 7 WAYS TO INFLUENCE YOUR AUDIENCE AND DELIVER POWERFUL PRESENTATIONS

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How effective are your presentations? Do people seem captured by your words, data, and graphics? Do they look at you and your slides with intense interest? Do they come to you after the presentation commending you and asking for more on the subject? Perhaps that level of presentation success happens only once in a long while. People say that most presentations are boring and ineffective. How can you make yours more interesting and influential? Here are some suggested tips that might work:

1.     Know your subject:
The one element that can make your presentation much easier on you and more influential to your audience is your mastery of the subject. Practices giving a presentation on your topic until you are confident that you know your topic inside out without having to look at slides or notes.

2.     Speak to your audience’s interest:
It’s amazing how many presenters stand up and start talking about their project, their ideas, their product, as it what is of interest to them is also of interest to their audience. Follow the WIIFM concept (What’s In It For Me?) Tell your audience at the outset how what you will be talking about is going to benefit them.

3.     Speak the language of your listeners:
A key concept in effective communication is to speak in the language of your listener. This means that you must not speak in your own preferred language, style, and point of view. If you want to be effective, you must make sure that you reach the audience by adopting their language, their style, their way of seeing things, and their level of comprehension. If you don’t reach them, you don’t influence them.

4.     Talk to group one person at a time:
Don’t look in the outer space. Look at your audience one at a time. Spend a few seconds looking in the eyes of each person sitting in front of you, then move slowly to the next. This way each person will feel that you are talking to him or her personally.

5.     Make it personal. Make it human:
Even if your presentation is technical, make it as human as you can. You make your presentation human by making it personal. Talk about your personal experience. Describe how you felt when. Be vulnerable. Be authentic. By funny, without necessarily telling jokes. Be natural. Be human.

6.     Engage your audience:
Communication is a two way street. Avoid giving one-way speeches. Fill your presentations with questions that require your audiences’ answers. Use quizzes to intrigue them. Ask those who have similar experiences to raise their hands. Get them involved. If you have time, give them time to speak and present their view points.

7.     Perform:
Being natural and authentic does not mean you stand up there whispering in your normal voice. If you are presenting then you are on stage. You must perform. You need to raise your voice, move, and waive your hands. You are the center of attention and the focal point of your audience. Don’t let them sleep in their seats. Your movements, voice, and body language should all be dynamic enough to keep your audience awake and interested.

Dennis Kwan is a trainer, speaker, author, a volunteer at Changi prison and also a Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner, Hypno-Therapist, Time-line Practitioner. He graduated with a Bachelor Degree in Commerce in Information Technology. He is also certified in Project Management Professional (PMP), Information Technology Infrastructure Library (ITIL) and Certified ISO 9001 Auditor.